Find your personal legend-5

Hi there! As some of you might know, every tuesday is “find your personal legend” day. Today marks the fifth post in the series. Find all previous posts here.

Last time, I talked about dreams vs goals. There is a difference between pursuing your passion and making a living out of it. Sadly, many of us mistake their hobbies for their talents. Also, talent isn’t everything.

Where do I stand?

If you are following through with the posts, you must have made a list of your interests, tried out a few jobs. If not, do it first. Think about the ways in which you can pursue your passion. Don’t be disappointed, you’re bound to fail a few times. It is important to know where you stand and what you know before you proceed in any direction. Start with the basics. Build skills.

Still confused? Don’t worry. Ask yourself the following questions:

  1. What would I do if I could do my best in it?
  2. What would I do if nobody paid me to do it?
  3. What would I do if money wasn’t a concern?
  4. What would I do if my family supported me no matter what I choose?
  5. What would make me feel accomplished?
  6. What qualities I admire in others?
  7. Do I have those qualities too?
  8. Do I like a particular kind of lifestyle? who are the people living that lifestyle and what do they do?
  9. Is there a dream job I wished I had when I was a child?
  10. Do I still have that dream?
  11. Does it make sense? Fill my stomach with butterflies?
  12. Is there any place in particular I wish to live in?
  13. Do I like what I do?
  14. Am I ignoring my heart because I’m afraid?
  15. Does any of the above questions point in some direction? Does it make sense?

If you have already found the one thing that clicks, great! If you have not, try harder and newer things. Experiment. Explore. Discover yourself.

Look at people you admire. What do they do?

Try Gandhiji’s talisman:

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Gud luck!

 

 

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Personal Excellence: Compare yourself to no one

As young adults, we often try to measure our success in terms of what others have achieved in the same situation. It can be money, grades, relationships or even fitness levels. To see your friend’s accomplishments as an example could be inspirational and many people will say it is a healthy comparison because it inspires you and propels you do the same.

However, I beg to differ. I believe that no matter what the other person does, he can never be you. Every one is unique. Whether you fail or succeed is only a reflection of your own efforts and conditions. Under no circumstances should you compare yourself to someone else. Not when you do good and not when you do bad.

When we compare ourselves to others, we give away the sense of responsibility

 At the subconscious level, we start to feel like whatever we do is merely a consequence of our circumstances, that anyone in our place would have done the same thing. It can relieve you from the burden of being a failure but it can also make you feel like a puppet of destiny.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not an atheist who wants to get rid of the notion of destiny. Infact I’m a huge believer in destiny and the fact that there is an inherent meaning in everything that happens. However, I also believe in free will and the fact that we create our own destinies.

Philosophy apart, it is what we do and say that gives us power. If you feel like a puppet, you will not try harder to get what you want.

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Take responsibility for your actions. It seems stressful at first but it will actually give you freedom. Freedom of what you want to do and not what others expect you to do. This freedom is an essential requirement to excel in life. You know what they say-

what happens to you is not always in your control but how you react to it, is.

A cliche I know but it is true.

In conclusion, today I want to say that we are all the same in the sense that we are all unique. We have our own set of talents and personal abilities and it depends on us what we make of them. In the end, you are the one who will reap the fruit of your actions. So, take responsibility and stop comparing yourself to others. You will never walk in their shoes. You need to walk in your own shoes.

Find your personal legend-3

Hey there! As my regular readers know, I’ve been posting about finding your personal calling or your “personal legend” since last few weeks. Today is the third post in this series. (You can check out previous posts here)

Last week, I asked you to gather basic information about the field of your interest. For example, if you want to become a lawyer find out the necessary qualification and where/how to get it. If you want to be an athlete, find a coach/training academy.

The next step is a big one. I think the best way to know whether you can do something is to actually do it. You never know if you never try.

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the next step is to actually try it out

Yes. Do it. Whatever it is that you want to become, imagine you are already there and act like one:

1. Is there an internship available in the field you are interested in? Can you apply for it?

2. Is there a part time job available? Does it capture the essence of what you think your ideal job would be like?

3. Do you know the subject well enough? Join an on-line course or take a class in your local community college.

4. Is there some kind of competition being held? participate.

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I think you get what I’m trying to say. Find a way to do what you want to do. It doesn’t matter if it is small or it doesn’t pay. Your job is to find out whether you actually like this kind of work or is it temporary fascination.

So, today’s tip is to try. Try a number of things. Keep on trying until you find the one thing that clicks. Best of luck!

Find your personal legend-2

Hey there! As I promised you last week, I will help you find your passion and dream career. This is my second post and I’m picking up from last Tuesday.

Last week I asked you to make a list of your interests and possible career profiles you can think of. I also suggested you to consider the opinions of your friends while making the list. It is a tiring job I know. I did it too. Here is my list:

Nanotechnology, Photography, Cryptography, Computer science, Writing-blogging, Management and business, Web design, Cooking, Astrophysics, Law.

I sincerely hope you have your list with you now.

Prioritize the list

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Consider 3 factors:

  1. Skill level: how much you already know and what skills you require to pursue the career choice.
  2. Interest level: Is it something you are passionate about? Would you do it just for fun knowing that nobody will pay you?
  3. Trial period: Is there a way you can try out the given job for a short time period? like an internship or part-time job maybe?In other words, is it feasible to try out now?(More on it next week)

My prioritized list:

  1. Nanotechnology: interest+skill
  2. Photography: interest+feasibility
  3. Astrophysics: interest+feasibility
  4. Computer science: skill+feasibility
  5. Writing/Blogging: interest+feasibility
  6. Cryptography: interest
  7. Law: interest
  8. Cooking: interest+feasibility
  9. Web design: interest
  10. Management & Business

Ask questions

When you are settled with the broad field(s) you think you can work in, ask yourself the following questions:

  1. Does it require some special knowledge or skill set? e.g. being a scientist would require you to study the subject in a lot detail. You need to do a Ph.D first. Are you prepared for those long hours of study and lab work?
  2. Does it require physical fitness? Suppose you want to be a firefighter. Are you fit to do the job? Both mentally and physically?
  3. Can you meet/contact some experts in the selected field of interest? They can give you an insider’s view of what the work actually would be like.

Build Skills/Knowledge

What if you have no contacts and no prior knowledge?

  1. Join online classes or local community classes on the subject.
  2. Collect as much information you can get through the internet.
  3. Find out email addresses of some experts working in the field you are interested in. Drop them an email and ask what you want to ask. Most people love to talk about their jobs.
  4. Research about the companies/agencies offering jobs in the area you are interested in.
  5. Read books about the subject.
  6. Get fit. Both physically and mentally.

In summary,get as much information as you can about the career you want to pursue. Find the gaps and skills you are lacking in and try to fill in these gaps. The goal is not to become an expert but to have a basic idea about the subject. It doesn’t matter what kind of job you’ll actually be doing, you only need to understand the basics for now.

Once you know the fundamental aspects of the career you are interested in, you can move on to the next step. More on that next week!

Find your personal legend-1

Hey there! As I promised you yesterday, I am going to post about realizing your passion into work every week, starting today. These days there is a lot of discussion going on about “passion”, most of it philosophical with no practical application. I wanted to get you more practical tips on following your heart. I want to let you know that it is possible.

Believe that you have a purpose in life

First things first. You need to believe in yourself when no one else does. There will be self doubt and second thoughts but you have to trust yourself. Even if you fail, even if you make mistakes.

Make a List

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We all have different interests. Some hobbies can be turned into full time jobs. Some skills you take for granted can make you a billionaire. All you have to do is try. Today, grab a pen or open a word document and list every possible career you can think of desiring, anything you find interesting. It could be unrealistic at present but you never know. List out all of your dream jobs.

Prioritize them according to your skill level, interest and feasibility. Keep the ones you can try easily or which don’t need specific knowledge or skills at the top. If you need help, you can take online personality quizzes to judge your skill level and aptitude. Some of the popular ones are listed below:

1. Jung’s typology test on Humanmetrics

2. Princeton Review’s 5 minute career quiz

3. True colour test by Carolyn Kalil

4. BBC’s career test

5. Keirsey’s temperament sorter

This week, list out your interests. Take your time to prioritize them. Ask your friends about your aptitude and possible career profiles for yourself. They can suggest something which might have slipped off your mind, or something entirely new! I’ll post what to do with the list next tuesday. Keep on reading!

Nerdiness: the two kinds

Do you know that kid who sits in the front row and answers every question? The one who asks a question at the moment teacher is about to leave the room? Yeah he is an annoying nerd. Every class has one or two of this kind. I hate this kind. These little know-it-all don’t do much after college in general. I’ve seen most of them getting settled for a mediocre job, hating their lives. I don’t mean to offend anyone, but most of which I’ve met didn’t think or care about anything except their grades. They didn’t study for the passion or interest but for the desire to be at the top. There are exceptions like real life Hermione kind who actually turn out to be the best and I love them but the rest are very annoying and I can’t stand them. If you find yourself resembling to this kind, I’m sorry but I would like to see you doing something you care about rather than plain cramming and nagging.

The other kind of nerds I know are the quiet ones. They sit usually in the corner, lost in their world working on something they are really passionate about. It is not that they don’t know the answers, but that they are happy as they are, comfortable in their own position. They don’t party as much, but they are fun. They are friendly and humble. These are the real geniuses in my opinion. They have the drive to do something and they actually care. They see problems as opportunities and build solutions. These are the ones who change the world. If you see yourself in this category, you deserve my respect. Know that one day your dreams will come true. You are a brilliant person and I am grateful for people like you.

If you think you are neither, my tip is to get in touch with the geniuses. They are very good friends and they will always help you. They might be weird but they are very good at what they do.

Who knows, you might discover the genius in you