As young adults, we often try to measure our success in terms of what others have achieved in the same situation. It can be money, grades, relationships or even fitness levels. To see your friend’s accomplishments as an example could be inspirational and many people will say it is a healthy comparison because it inspires you and propels you do the same.
However, I beg to differ. I believe that no matter what the other person does, he can never be you. Every one is unique. Whether you fail or succeed is only a reflection of your own efforts and conditions. Under no circumstances should you compare yourself to someone else. Not when you do good and not when you do bad.
When we compare ourselves to others, we give away the sense of responsibility
At the subconscious level, we start to feel like whatever we do is merely a consequence of our circumstances, that anyone in our place would have done the same thing. It can relieve you from the burden of being a failure but it can also make you feel like a puppet of destiny.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not an atheist who wants to get rid of the notion of destiny. Infact I’m a huge believer in destiny and the fact that there is an inherent meaning in everything that happens. However, I also believe in free will and the fact that we create our own destinies.
Philosophy apart, it is what we do and say that gives us power. If you feel like a puppet, you will not try harder to get what you want.
Take responsibility for your actions. It seems stressful at first but it will actually give you freedom. Freedom of what you want to do and not what others expect you to do. This freedom is an essential requirement to excel in life. You know what they say-
what happens to you is not always in your control but how you react to it, is.
A cliche I know but it is true.
In conclusion, today I want to say that we are all the same in the sense that we are all unique. We have our own set of talents and personal abilities and it depends on us what we make of them. In the end, you are the one who will reap the fruit of your actions. So, take responsibility and stop comparing yourself to others. You will never walk in their shoes. You need to walk in your own shoes.